Monday, July 9, 2007

The men are dropping like flies, but my weight isn't

I did lose about a pound this week, in the end. Not so bad. Of course, I would like it to move faster. But for that to happen I'd have to be stricter about what I eat. Much. Maybe I'll get there someday, however for the moment I'm mostly on plan. For a lifestyle change that's fine. It evolves.

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I was supposed to go on a date with a guy from Yahoo tomorrow, but I called and canceled. I channeled Lili* and said "I think I'll have to pass on tomorrow night." He was a bit stunned, but it was all over quickly, like ripping off a bandaid. I wasn't so sure about him to start, but then he implied that it wasn't a privilege to take me out to dinner and said we'd go Dutch. Excuse me? It is so a privilege to take me out! So, I canceled.

Replied to a couple of messages in my Yah-- box and the POF box and then cruised Y-- for somenice boys. I sent ice breakers to about 7.

Weight sure does enter into this whole dating thing. I'm not going to put my life on hold because I'm fat. That's stupid. But the menz, they are rare that will date someone with "a few extra pounds." And mine aren't even a few.

First off there are only 189 men on the Y that even fit my basic criteria. Admitedly, I'm a particular sort of woman. My sister says I'm picky. But I'm not. It's just that I don't get along with everyone and I bore easily. Anyway, college educated, white guys over 5'10", between the ages of 38 and 47 are apparently a rarity within 15 miles of Fat City. And I live in one of the most over-educated cities in the country. Then they can't be too conservative. Out of the 189 I have to find the ones that want kids still. Are erudite and well-traveled. And willing to date fat girls. Plus, I'd prefer that they not be pig ugly -- though that's a matter of taste. Someone that's attractive to me isn't going to be attractive to one of my rocker chick sisters.

I know thin women say that dating is hard for them, too, but at least they have a bigger pool of candidates. I'd guess that my options are only about 15% of the 189. And lots of those aren't a fit for me.

Still, I'm not going to date someone who doesn't think it's a privilege to date me. The second he said that, I stopped being flattered that he wanted to go on a date with me. Well, apparently even though he asked me to dinner, he didn't really want to be one date with me. Dutch is not a date.

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